As the cliche goes, experience is the best teacher.
After my 20-something years of existence in the face of the earth, I would have to agree. Mistake after mistake, heartache after heartache, trials after trials, all these made me stronger. I am who I am today because of all those challenges. Good or bad, everything you had been through made you a little, if not a whole lot, wiser.
Below are some of the lessons I learned throughout the years:
Its okay to make mistakes. What is not okay is not learning from them
No one is perfect. At one point in your life, you had at least made one mistake. (wow you’re a saint or just living in denial!) More likely during your adolescent stage where hormones and teenage angst are to blame. Learn from your mistakes so you wont encounter that problem again. Doing the same thing over and over again is insanity.
Don’t be to hard on yourself
As stated in the first part, mistakes are inevitable. Don’t berate yourself. Accept that reality and move on with it. Do not wallow up in self pity and guilt. Let go off all negativity and always look at the bright side. Introspection is good. Just don’t go in too deep.
Never compromise you beliefs for anyone. The greatest loss you would ever have is losing your self along the way
There are those people you encounter who have an annoying habit of wanting to change you into something that they think is better for you. Sometimes they meant no harm and genuinely cares for you but sometimes they can be too forceful. Don’t try to change for someone. Same as in making life decisions. Decide for yourself and not what you think others will like more.
Let go of grudges. They weigh you down and strangle your heart
Someone will eventually hurt your feelings. That is a fact. Intentional or unintentional. talk to that person and tell them what you feel. Sometimes they have no idea that what they did hurt you. If they don’t accept it gracefully, well, at least you know where you stand in their life. Don’t hold on grudges. Let go.
“Hold on when you get love and let go when you give it” – Stars
Appreciate the love and care given to you by the people around you. Love other people, friends, family, special someone, even random strangers. Love has many forms. Reciprocity in reality is just a concept. Don’t be too idealistic. Don’t give expecting something in return. ( Only alchemy has the law of equivalent exchange. 🙂 )
Know yourself better. No other person will ever be interested in you than yourself
Knowing yourself makes you appreciate your uniqueness more. It boosts your confidence and makes you comfortable in your own skin. Love yourself. Just don’t be too narcissistic.
If you have something to say to someone, say it. You might never have the chance to say it again
Applicable to family members, loved ones, friends and everyone who had touched your life. Missed chances are the biggest regret anyone may have.
Enjoy the power and the beauty of your youth” – Baz Luhrmann (sunscreen)
Today is the oldest you had been and the youngest you will ever be. Enjoy your youth. Go out. Soak in the sun. One day you will realize that you can’t do the things you can before. Do it while you still can.
Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. – Matthew 6:34
Worrying only makes you feel bad. If you can do something about your problem, why are you worrying? If you cannot do something, well, why even worry?
Be contented with what you have and appreciate every thing you have. The simple things are what matters
Being happy is not having everything. It is being contented on what you have. Its an attitude. Its just a matter of perspective.
I also made a letter to myself before and read it every time I am feeling down / losing hope. It serves as a great reminder that I had been down before and made it through. Its like me encouraging myself. I learned that I am never alone as long as I have myself and my conviction to move on for the better.
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