BECAUSE WE TEND TO SUGARCOAT OUR LIVES IN SOCIAL MEDIA, SOCIAL MEDIA-INDUCED ENVY-BASED ANXIETY TEND TO CONSUME US
Because of technology, all information is available at our fingertips. If you have a question, just Google (this word has now become a widely used adverb) it. But it is also because of this ‘connection’ that we absorb far more of other people’s lives than we ever would. We can easily be updated by the lives of strangers we have never met, friends, frienemies and also extended family members. I, for one, am guilty of this. Social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram and Twitter makes it unbearably easy that it is hard not to look at their profiles. We cant even go an entire day without seeing a new Facebook status, an Instagram selfie, a tweet on what is going on in their lives. We are all guilty of showing off the highlights life rather than our daily life. We show the world our best angle. There’s nothing wrong with it but because we tend to sugarcoat our lives in social media, social media-induced envy-based anxiety tend to consume most of us.
I sometimes worry that I spend far too much time comparing myself to other girls too much. I complain why I am not as beautiful as some bloggers, that my life is so boring, I don’t have that much followers or likes on my social media accounts, that I am a failure and sometimes it gets the best of me. I let it get to me too much.
Aside from the blog stats comparison, I also compare and complain why my life hasn’t fallen to place, I don’t have my own space, a big enough savings, my own car, etc etc. Lists about what I should have by this age adds to the stress that is my life. Heck, almost all people on my Facebook are either getting married or expectant mothers and here I am not thinking about those things. I feel like I am a failure.
JEALOUSY is deadly yet it is one of the most basic human emotion. We spend our lives from the beginning comparing ourselves to those around us. Every one of us has a little social monster that plagues us daily, whether it’a a job, an apartment, a career, a blogger with a ton of free makeup or that rich kid flying to exotic five star hotels for a job – something makes us continually feel jealous of other’s success. There are those social feeds I admire and would really love to see do well, but sometimes it feeds my little green monster and I end up hating myself for letting it consume me like that. But am I alone? Oh hell no.
So what do we do abut it? Do we simply delete or unfollow those who make us feel inferior? Or just delete our social media accounts entirely? I wonder if social media or the online world is the problem or do we just use them to cover up a far wider problem. We argue that “if you dont like it, dont read it” but most of the time that is not the case.
Changing your outlook will help you cope up with this issue. Instead of letting jealousy get the best of you, you can use it as a springboard to do better yourself. No one likes being left out or feeling like they’re not succeeding in what they are doing, but actually by wasting time worrying about others, we are losing precious time on improving ourselves. Comparing your relationship with others isn’t really going to help your relationship. It will only make you find flaws in yours and eventually be bitter. Comparing your blog to the biggest blog in your network isn’t going to propel yours to the same level. Comparing yourself with a colleague isn’t going to help you up your career ladder or get the job you want. Most of all, comparing other people’s happiness to your own isn’t going to make you happy.
Use the ones who seemingly upload a perfect fuss free life onto social media as a crux to feel like you are the same. Believe it. If it worries you that much, make you life exactly how you want it but be always real. Look up to your favorite blogger for inspirations but don’t let the green eyed monster getinside you and make you beat yourself up over it.
If you want something that bad, work hard for it. Success does not happen overnight. Those people you look up to put in lots of time and effort to be where they are now. Shifting your mindset from the negative to positive will help you have a sense of contentment and happiness. Remember that everyone can project a perfect life online and they may seem happy but aren’t actually that happy in real life. life stretches far beyong the little heart count, likes and favorites on social media.
Smile. Be happy. You’re nothing like the girl you wish you were. You’re better. You’re you. Only one of you exists in the world. You have a story to tell. It doesn’t matter if your life is not like those you see among your favorite bloggers.You are not defined by numbers. You are unique. Continue on. You are enough.