From the day we were born, there is this invisible path that society has carved for us. A blueprint on how we should live our lives. born, reach milestones, school, university, job, get married, children, grand children and eventually die. This is still a great life, if your heart really wants it but some people are not wired like this. Actually I believe we are all capable of going against the flow and its just a matter of courage and dedication to really act on it. It may be due to circumstances, environment, personal decision, influences , etc.
I’m sick of people asking me when I am going to marry as my peers are either married or expecting a baby. There are times I ask myself, “Is there something wrong with me? why don’t I desire those things as of this moment?”. On most days, I can just shrug it off and move on to the next task at hand but there are those times that I really sulk, hug myself into a ball and cry. “I know there is something wrong with me. I just know it” mantra running on my mind.
Eventually I reached a point where I don’t care anymore what other people say. This is MY life. I create my own path and not them. What happens in my life is my major concern. Its more than okay to carve your own path against what is perceived the norm.
We all have different strengths and weaknesses. Society thinks that to be successful, you must finish your schooling: from primary school to college. only then can you land on your dream job. This is not entirely true. There are people who haven’t stepped inside a university campus or a university dropout but have become more successful than those who graduated with a masters degree. The best teacher is experience. Trust me on this.
Growing up, I have been really fascinated about the planets, space and the solar system. At about 4-5 years old, I can recite the names of the 9 planets, give description about each, composition and distance from the sun without bathing an eyelash. Then there was this time at a family gathering that my relatives asked me what I want to be when I grow up. I answered with conviction that I want to be a scientist and work on NASA. They just laughed and told me that it is impossible because (insert mundane reason and crush a childish dream here). I was crestfallen. My greatest dream cannot be achieved. I began to lose interest in reading about space and eventually found a new interest. I wanted to be a veterinarian.
I had my first pet dog when I was 7 years old. I loved her with my all and took care of her. I walked her, feed her and bathe her with the help of my yaya (nanny). I was so in love with her that I want to give her the best care possible. Because of that, I wanted to study more about animals and how to care for them right. Then came the family gathering again. Same scenario. Same outcome. They said that I cant earn decent money in being a veterinarian. (sorry for putting my relatives as the antagonist here but hey, they did crush my childhood dreams so yeah. ) I gave my dream up.
I was so discouraged that I did not dream again after that. I graduated from secondary education without knowing what I will take up in college. Thankfully, I chose a course that I eventually did love.
TIP: If you have a dream, do not give it up because someone said that you cant. Work hard for it and prove them wrong.
If you ever ask a child what he/she wants to be in the future and they answer something out of this world, don’t laugh at them but encourage them instead. Who knows? maybe they will go against the norm and be someone great in the future.
You might not be good with numbers (calculus, trigonometry, algebra etc) but express yourself better with words or through colors. Who is to tell you you cannot make a career out of it? Why shouldn’t you go out there and do what you WANT to, as opposed to what you feel that you HAVE to? There are so many miserable people out there pushed into careers they felt that they had to go along just to please everyone else but is not what their heart truly desires.
The problem that seems to be a bit of a stigma attached to carving your own path is that you are seen less of a person or worse, a failure. You should never let others’ opinion discourage you and put you down. Never stop wondering what walking along the other path will be like. The path the world wants you to take might be paved, golden and sparkly as opposed to the other one which is broken, battered and full of thorns but remember that all life paths has the same happy ending if you do it properly. They will all lead to eternal happiness. After all has been said and done, what really matters is how you live your life.
Do things at your own phase. Wasting your life in a job you hate wont make you happier even if it does make you richer. Rushing into a relationship, grabbing the first guy that comes your way, and getting married because the world is telling you to wont make your relationship stronger.
Take every day as it comes. Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. (Matthew 6:34) There are thousands of people out there who decided to live their dream and became successful. You can join them too. Its entirely up to you to decide. It’s more than okay to carve your own path against the norm. You are braver than you give yourself credit for. You wouldn’t know unless you tried. Whatever happens, you still have lessons to take home. You will be much wiser and stronger.